Social Readiness

  • First, take your child with you to use the toilet and encourage him to do the flushing. Put a potty chair in the bathroom and when you use the toilet, encourage him to sit on the little potty chair. In the beginning, don't bother taking his diapers off and don't expect any success. Just get him accustomed to sitting on the potty. Talk and enjoy this time together. Be encouraging and say, "Someday you'll use the toilet just like Mom or Dad."

  • Some children won't want a little toilet on the floor, they'll want to sit on the big toilet. If this is the case with your child, purchase a potty seat that fits on the big toilet. Encourage your child to set dolls and Teddy bears on the potty seat to play toileting. Through play children learn about toileting. If Teddy accidentally falls in the toilet, calmly rescue him and allow the play to continue. Your
    child will learn from this experience that if he falls in, like Teddy, he will be rescued and not flushed away. All of these activities help children warm up to the idea of using the toilet themselves.

  • Traditionally, moms are the most involved in teaching toileting techniques, so girls often train more quickly than boys. Girls have bodies like mom, they see what she does, and they learn from modeling after her behavior. When dads get involved in training boys, it helps them succeed. If the same-sex parent isn't involved, a child will still learn to use the toilet, it may just take a little longer.

  • It really helps if your child can watch another child who is similar in age perform on the toilet. This puts the toileting process in his realm of possibility. He thinks: If my cousin can do it, so can I. If there are older brothers and sisters in the house, encourage the younger child to watch them in the bathroom (but only with permission from the older child). Remember, children together in the bathroom always need adult supervision.

  • Modeling by peers is often all it takes for toileting success to occur. For children in a child care setting, social readiness is naturally encouraged since children want to participate in the bathroom activities along with the others.

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